Scruffy

Expectations are how the devil gets his dues. If you set about fulfilling other people's expectations of you, your own expectations of yourself are likely to take a backseat. On the flip side, meeting your own expectations of yourself is not enough either. They leave you vulnerable to failing the expectations of what others think you should be.

This Sunday's Indian Express article makes a pitch for not seeking perfection and the ability to revel in the scruffiness of being. A noble cause and saver of anxiety pill bills that is. In seeking to hide flaws, we often raise greater suspicion on the lines of "Tum itnaa jo muskura rahein ho, kyaa gumm hai jisko chhipaa rahein ho [With a smile so broad, what sorrow do you seek to conceal?]"

Scruffy Way of Life, Sun, 03-Nov-2024, IE

But I cannot seem to separate the word from the image of a furry mountain mongrel, unkempt and untrained, slightly stinky but completely free. The article is structured around the obsession (of many of us) around presenting a idealized home when folks come calling. While I can honestly claim to have no such passion, the guilt that comes with having someone visit my house and just glance around is proof enough that I am not as immune to societal norms as I would like to be. Not that the next time a guest comes around they find my residence sparkling clean and maniacally organized but a temporary fever does at least induce me to organize a shelf or two to soothe my social conscience. 

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Gentle

In typical Times of India fashion, this is an attempt to get away with the fluff. At a time when a 20% drop in the elephant population of India is likely to be reported soon, their focus is on Hollywood adaptations of elephants. We all know that Los Angeles, California is the original habitat of the Asian elephant and any stories emanating from there are likely to be the most authentic (NOT).

12-Aug-2024, World Elephant Day, ToI

Without taking away the importance of a Colonel Haathi or a Dumbo, particularly for an urban audience used to such 'cutification', the occasion presented the perfect opportunity to talk about the living breathing animals which are being choked for space by human activities and transportation structures. Friendly and wise they are but in the real world, any challenge to their sense of security and privacy leads to tragic consequences for both animals and humans when the elephants show their not-so-gentle side. 

Too much darkness for the Delhi Times, you say? I counter to say that there is a reason why Hollywood has made so many elephant characters despite being continents away from any actual wild elephant. These creatures are no less celebrities than the starlets that they choose to pack their Page 3 section with. The individuals whims, fancies and tantrums of elephants are packed with anecdotes much more interesting than the gym-look of a has-been. Where the juicy gossip and 'personal challenges' of tinsel town have such a strong viewership, a column or two on the surprisingly human like attributes of our planet sharers can go a long way in humanizing them the right way - flawed but well within their rights to be so.

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Slow

The National Book Trust (NBT) and its bookshop is a mixed bag. By virtue of its selection of titles and authors, it offers a refreshing alternative to the production line setups of commercial bookstore chains like Crossword. Because of the very same reasons, the gulf between the title's promise and the delivered text can be vast due to the author being a sarkari selection. The book "India Post: A Journey through Ages" I picked from the NBT's store in Dehradun is one such, purposefully written it would seem, to aggravate anyone with expectations of structure and story-telling. That it is (claimed to be) written to celebrate one of the most important applications of the written word makes the circumstances twice as tragic. Owning the book makes me happy for its existence but sad for its execution.

World Post Day, 10-0ct-2024, ToI

A Times of India supplement on World Post Day (10th October) looked at another aspect of the handwritten letter, its romanticization on celluloid as a medium of connection for lovers, soldiers, breadwinners and those displaced from home by their own success. The personalization that a handwritten letter brings and its physical journey from sender to recipient contributes to its value. The permanency of its words present a sharp contrast to the ever changing world that it navigates through. Even in the few days it had taken to reach its destination, things have been altered irrevocably but like every sensible person or thought it refuses to move at anything above its own chosen pace.

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